4 words you never want to hear.

No, it's not "I think i'm pregnant".. or "I have a disease".. or anything of that nature.

If you truely care about someone, like I do it's rough to hear, even though they might not even be sure what the deal is.

"I'm having second thoughts".. with full context "I think im havin second thoughts of us.. idk.. I may just be having a down moment.. I think i'm bipolar".

My current.. girlfriend just sent me this via text, and i'm in the shitter of even how to respond. I told her well, that really sucks since I really do care for her, I know she has been telling me about her bad day, all day. There really hasn't been anything bad happened to us yet, we've already done the nasty, i've done tons of little things to show her I care for her, and we go out last night to hang out with some of "her friends".. which could be what the deal is.

I guess, I'm just out in the open on this one, and it throws me off. I usually am dead-on about people's situations, including my own, but this has really thrown me through a ringer.

I just responded to her that I guess maybe I had been coming on strong considering I just got out of a long relationship, and I just am looking for somebody to dump my whole heart into, and just maybe want more out of her.. and no reply.

Ugh, I guess a good weekend just got a little shittier, :-\

D3V, I feel for you man. In those types of situations, you basically can't do anything to make it progress in your favor. It's just a quagmire/stalemate that is going to turn into a loss.

That sucks dude. If I had any advice to give, I'd just have to say don't do/say anything to make it worse. Good luck in your rough patch, hopefully tomorrow will bring a better day.

Man thats one of the worst things that could happen on the shitter.

Thanks fellas..

Well, nothing really updated yet, we're still texting, she says she's just not sure. And she was like this in the begenning as well.

There is no way that she should think I am using her, considering I told her we should try and develop our relationship more before we do anything, which we did wait a little while, but it finally caved in.

She did just text me though "I dont think I stand in the same place as you..." which I guess is the killer :-\

I'm just going to keep talking with her, maybe communcating like this will help. I need to write my story in about my ex girlfriend, and the rest of this story will make more sense.

your absolute best bet is keep her talking probably - but when she says shes done talking you kinda gotta bite your upper and lower lip and resist texting or calling her.

jamer, write us a hack for females please!

Well she isn't at that point, she just said in the begenning that she thinks she's having second thoughts about "us" and I guess now that she doesn't think she's on the same page as me. I basically told her that I still like her a bunch, and would be willing to work on things if she was up for it.. I mean, other than that there really isn't anything in my power to do, the ball is in her court.

I just responded to her that I guess maybe I had been coming on strong considering I just got out of a long relationship, and I just am looking for somebody to dump my whole heart into, and just maybe want more out of her.. and no reply.

first, next, and lastly let me tell you this. never give a woman any chance to think you are using her.

you should have asked her why, after that asked if there were things we could talk about perhaps things we can do together. If she still throws you the cold shoulder, then send it right back at her. if at this point she still doesnt give enough shits about talking with someone she is with then fck it.

I know whats its like trust me, life goes up and down - but when communication stops, the relationship is soon to follow. If she wont talk to you after you have tried in a more intelligent manner (see quote). Then i say give her, her space and let things boil down.