Jen

He broke up with her, so it may be the "forbidden fruit" complex that's making this harder for her. And yah, sometimes just venting and typing out what I'm thinking helps. And as for Lenny, I had already told her I loved her.

A one eyed man sees only flat landscape. It takes another point of view to get perspective. And, yes, venting is great.

If you haven't given her that letter yet, I've got a couple of reccomendations. You say you're happy and content. Take out content. Content is a buzz word with a negative connotation. I know you mean it well, but content can mean, "I'm happy where I am, and I don't want to look for anything better." And despite your actual intentions and meaning of it, it can (and probably will) be interpreted wrong. Additionally, on the lines of the "I love you" line, if the two of you are there already, then great. If not, then I would reccomend telling her for the first time instead of writing it to her. I just don't think you'd get the same impact if you wrote it down.

As for the rest of it... After telling her how you feel, I wouldn't reccomend treating it like a competition. I just don't think it's healthy. It sucks that she's considering getting back with an ex while she's with you. I've been there, and I just tried to be understanding, and it passed in my case. Maybe I was lucky. *shrug* I just don't think that you should try to one up the guy. If they have a long history, or if she didn't want their relationship to end when it ended, then you may subconsiously make her mad in the process.

Other than that... good luck.

Additionally, on the lines of the "I love you" line, if the two of you are there already, then great. If not, then I would reccomend telling her for the first time instead of writing it to her. I just don't think you'd get the same impact if you wrote it down.

She already knows that I do, I've already told her.

As for the rest of it... After telling her how you feel, I wouldn't reccomend treating it like a competition. Other than that... good luck.

I'm trying not to. I don't bring him up in conversation, and if he ever does come up, I don't put him down or insult him or try to make myself seem better. I look at that as kind of low, and try to think of myself as more mature than that.

And thanks for the luck.

He dumped her and she's thinking of dumping you to get back with him. That's just bullshit. You're a better man than me. I'd have probably made the decision easy for her after I told her to piss off =O.

Stick it in her pooper.

Yea, or I would have stuck it in her pooper.

Jen is a cool girl that deserves a great man. Jake is that guy. When i visit them, they seem right for each other. Its actually funny getting drunk calls from the two of them and i hear in both thier voices that they are happy. This situation with her ex sucks ass because (and even if Jake wont say it) he probably cheated on her while they were together, then dumped her so he could get ass all summer from another person. Then, when he realized he wouldnt get any from anybody first night back at school, he decides to find the girl that might still have feelings and say some cheezy line to get her back. This guy sounds like a fruit, and should probably be kicked int he balls.

Jake, u know i have your back, so call me when you decide to kick the shit out of this guy. I would be glad to bring up my five iron and beat the shit out of him. And yes, i am totally not the mature one. For the record, probably the smallest dick i have ever heard about. Fucken EX's.

Bobby that's nice to hear. Thanks bro.

My analysis of the situation is pretty similar to Bobby's, and for that reason I hate this guy. He doesn't care for her like I do, and won't treat her as well as I will. For the moment though, I have to let her make her own decision and watch her get hurt. I'll be there to put her back together after this goes sour. It's gonna fucking SUCK to go through all of this, but to me, she's more than worth it.

Nickelback had it right in "Far Away": I'd give anything but I won't give up, and I would go through hell to hold her hand. She means the world to me, and I'm just gonna have to put my happiness on hold while she sorts her shit out and makes her mistakes. In the end, I'll always bee there for her.