Finding this thing called "love" is actually harder than I expected...

So you're saying that you broke up with her because she was cheating on you, although she never admitted to it? What were some of the indications you got that led you to believe this, any incriminating evidence?

I hear what you're saying when you said that you were blinded because you loved the fact that she loved you so much. I felt like that was my situation at first with my fiancee (yes, I'm engaged) - I love her, but her love felt so much more intense at times, however, I honestly feel as though that isn't really the case. Females (for the most part), just express themselves differently and more emotional. That doesn't necessarily mean they love you so much more intimately.

What was it like over the past few years that's making you feel as though you were a selfish prick (at least that's what I gathered you felt like from your post)?

No Titus, she broke up with me. I feel cheated on and lied to because of how fast things went with her after the breakup. 4 months after a 7 YEAR relationship she has a guy moving from Virginia to Oregon to live with her after 2 months of 'Long Distance Relationship'. I don't care who you are, that's enough to get one thinking. No Titus, the thought of being cheated upon was never in my thoughts during the years because she was so into me, until I saw how fast things went after I got dumped. It could be explained somewhat by her realizing she was now alone in a big world, and wanted to fill that void quickly, but loyalty has always been the biggest thing to me in friendships and above. After the breakup I had thought a lot about things and realized what I had been like, but even after showing her that I had changed, it was too late apparently. How can anyone not feel betrayed?

What it was like during the past year or two was my somewhat being in a downward spiral of playing too many video games combined with my constant problem of not knowing what I want to do with my life. I suppose as I grew unhappier with myself, I started ignoring the needs of others whilst thinking only about my own.

Most of it was all my fault, there's no disputing that, however I do feel that she would be happier with someone else. I'm more emotionally distant and independant where she's dependant and basically expected my every moment to be with her. She basically expects a fairy-tale and I could never give that to her.

It matters not whether you win or lose; what matters is whether I win or lose.

I sympathize with you my man. So how are things going recently? Are you getting back out there and dating? Online dating sites are pretty kickass from what my friends tell me to get your mind off things.

I sympathize with you my man. So how are things going recently? Are you getting back out there and dating? Online dating sites are pretty kickass from what my friends tell me to get your mind off things.

Recently, I've been finding a new place to live with the 'rents since they need a bit of help.

I'm not rushing dating or anything, it's going to be one of those things that happens when it happens. I'll point out that I've never been 'out there', I was with this woman since my Senior year in High School.

Also, if you remember Doofus' post about his Soul Mate on eHarmony, I tried that a long time ago for a laugh and got the "we can't match you blah blah" message.

Try a free website?

I originally found my current gf on a local community site and I'm horribly hard to match up with, female wise. So there's a lot of hope for anyone :P.