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Posted 2005-10-06, 10:56 PM in reply to Hades-Knight's post starting "OK ....heres how you failed: 1)..."
Hades-Knight said:
OK ....heres how you failed:

1) Asked her online
2) Asked her to her away msg
3)You ASKED her if she wanted to go out with you, this is the deal you don't EVER ask a girl to go out with you, you offer her a chance to spend time with you, ex: "Im going to xxx tonight, you should come"
4)You seemed weak and insecure in sending all those TXT msgs to her questioning her about it.

Heh, this guy's on top of his game.

Slaynish, you shouldn't ask for advice and then become critical when people give it to you. I think what most people were trying to say, was that you shouldn't have asked her to "go out" at all. That's about the equivalent to being in 1st grade and asking someone "Are we friends?" That's not how it's done. You do things with her, and if you hang out with groups you try to get alone time with her. You show interest in what she says and the things she does. You may be required to listen to what she says, that's normal. Then you two grow together and become really good friends(-WARNING- stay out of the friend zone -WARNING-, although that's another discussion entirely). Then one day you're alone, and you grow some balls and kiss her. Then maybe later you fool around and... well you get the picture. You don't ask a girl "Do you want to be girlfriend and boyfriend?" and expect either a relationship, or if there is a relationship, for it to last long at all.

My advice on your current situation:
Well you could always stick out the current situation with your error. That's what you will probably do, that's what anyone would probably do. However I'd say the best thing you could do is this nice little military tactic we call "regroup." Just step back, reevaluate, and go back in with a different attitude. Pretend you never did what you did, and work your way toward the kiss I discussed earlier. Oh ya, and the balls, you'll need some balls, because asking a girl out on an IM(with an away message mind you) is about the most cowardly pacifist thing you could've done.

Sorry to come down so hard, but it seemed like you needed it.

Good Luck

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Posted 2005-10-07, 12:41 AM in reply to S2 AM's post starting "Heh, this guy's on top of his game. ..."
Everyone is giving excellent advice. The only thing i have to say is that you need to be patient. It goes along with what everyone was saying about being insecure. Okay so you asked her out over her away message huge mistake, but it is able to be corrected. However what is not correctable is the fact that you text messaged her phone. Basically this fucked you intirely, because even if she would have said yes she would have the knowledge that you are really digging her way too much. Which her having that knowledge is possibly the worst thing that she could have because she knows that you will be easy to manipulate simply because you could not contain your self to just waiting to find out her answer. My suggestion is that you should kind of be leary if she all of the sudden decides to go out with you.

I just put this in here due to the fact that from the way you are describing her that she is manipulative due to the fact that according to your friend she would have said of course i would a week ago but know it is not right now.

another thing that strikes me as a problem is this statement that you posted.

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besides i sort of have a knack for being turned down the first time, then being accepted with open arms the next time.
This strikes me as a problem because it seems to me that you could be known by girls to be easily manipulated. I dont know if this is the case but just ask your self how your other relation ships ended.
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Posted 2005-10-07, 05:59 AM in reply to tidus2005's post starting "Everyone is giving excellent advice...."
Tidus; didnt read all of what you wrote but i'll get to it; the knack is a personal quality though.

S2AM; once again, if we arent in a relationship, whats going to stop her from getting with other guys.... shes not going to 'cheat' on her boyfriends with me...

I really just wanted to vent a little more. Shits just been pissing me off lately. Damn.

Cya, thx
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Posted 2005-10-07, 06:59 AM in reply to slaynish's post starting "Tidus; didnt read all of what you wrote..."
the only thing u can do now, dont pressure her. If she likes u like ur friend said, then shes going nowhere. Wait for her to come to u now. Its going to be tough, but make sure u seem happy when around her, especially if u are in a group with your or her friends. Maybe make her a bit jealous by talking to another chick about anything. Not only will this piss her off, then she might realize that she does have something for u. "the forbidden fruit must be tasted."-zoolander
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Posted 2005-10-07, 10:44 AM in reply to gruesomeBODY's post starting "the only thing u can do now, dont..."
OMG im totally watching Zoolander right now lol

anyways, he nailed it... don't ask her out again, for one... pressure is bad! if anything... show less interest in her now than you have been.
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Posted 2005-10-09, 12:52 AM in reply to Acer's post starting "OMG im totally watching Zoolander right..."
I would put my two cents, but I think most issues have been covered... Good luck anyhow.
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Posted 2005-10-09, 09:46 AM in reply to Acer's post starting "OMG im totally watching Zoolander right..."
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OMG im totally watching Zoolander right now lol
I was too so i had to post it
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Posted 2005-10-09, 02:38 PM in reply to gruesomeBODY's post starting "I was too so i had to post it"
Yeah, I think i should stop posting girl problems, its best for me to just figure it out mself. Im not saying you guys havnt helped, yeah you have, a lot actually. We have been talking and we are going to the movies together on Monday; i definitly have been showing less interest in her, and i know that she and I will be good friends. I just realized something; I am good enough for her to cheat on her boyfriend with me. I just thought about it. Two girls have already cheated on their Boyfriends with me, so i dont really feel like its not possible, I just dont like it when that happens; it makes me think that if they would cheat on him then they would cheat on me. Anyways; yeah, thanks for the advice guys, Someone can close this, or leave it actually so I can update what happens on monday.
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Posted 2005-10-07, 10:57 AM in reply to slaynish's post starting "Tidus; didnt read all of what you wrote..."
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S2AM; once again, if we arent in a relationship, whats going to stop her from getting with other guys.... shes not going to 'cheat' on her boyfriends with me...
Does anyone else read this the way I do?

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Posted 2005-10-07, 11:02 AM in reply to RoboticSilence's post starting "Does anyone else read this the way I do?"
How've you read it? That slaynish isn't good enough for her to cheat on her boyfriends with?

If so, then that's not that fair...but, hey, what can I say? That's the way the mind works. Carry on.
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Posted 2005-10-07, 11:50 AM in reply to RoboticSilence's post starting "Does anyone else read this the way I do?"
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Does anyone else read this the way I do?


Well if she's interested in you, then when someone asks her out, hopefully she'll say she wants to keep herself available. You gotta beat the competition, it's been that way since we were monkeys. Well unless you believe in the FSM. Anyways, I just looked at how old you were. I thought you were more of in the 15-18 range... I guess my advice is less useful to you at your age.
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Posted 2005-10-07, 01:26 PM in reply to RoboticSilence's post starting "Does anyone else read this the way I do?"
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Does anyone else read this the way I do?


Well if she's interested in you, then when someone asks her out, hopefully she'll say she wants to keep herself available. You gotta beat the competition, it's been that way since we were monkeys. Well unless you believe in the FSM. Anyways, I just looked at how old you were. I thought you were more of in the 15-18 range... I guess my advice is less useful to you at your age.
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Posted 2005-10-07, 01:46 PM in reply to Grav's post starting ":grin: Well if she's interested in..."
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Does anyone else read this the way I do?


Well if she's interested in you, then when someone asks her out, hopefully she'll say she wants to keep herself available. You gotta beat the competition, it's been that way since we were monkeys. GravitonSurge is a queer. Anyways, I just looked at how old you were. I thought you were more of in the 15-18 range... I guess my advice is less useful to you at your age.
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Posted 2005-10-07, 02:35 PM in reply to Sum Yung Guy's post starting ":grin: Well if she's interested in..."
What the hell? Did you edit my post?

Oh, and the "GravitonSurge is queer" is real cute, homothug.
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