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Posted 2007-12-03, 09:41 AM
in reply to Optimistic's post "So.. I kinda need your opinions"
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Honestly, this sounds a lot like the relationship my sister is in. Whenever she talks to her boyfriend over the phone it usually ends up with him bitching at her. She can't go out to bars with my cousin's and I anymore unless he's there, and he hates bars, so that's out of the question. She constantly has to run everything she wants to do and everywhere she want's to go by him first, and you can tell by her reactions that his responses are rarely ever ones she wants to hear.
The only difference is she is completely unable to see her relationship the way the rest of us see it. We've tried to talk to her about it, carefully, but she came to the BS conclusion that if we hate him, then we must hate her as well.
But the more I look at their relationship, the more it looks like it's actually the kind of relationship she's happy with. And really he's not all that bad of a guy, I get along with him great myself. In the end I told everyone to just back off and let their relationship develop, for better or worse.
If you talk to her and she decides not to listen to you, you'll have to do the same yourself. It's difficult at times, but hopefully it'll end up positively.
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