Hades-Knight said:
OK ....heres how you failed:
1) Asked her online
2) Asked her to her away msg
3)You ASKED her if she wanted to go out with you, this is the deal you don't EVER ask a girl to go out with you, you offer her a chance to spend time with you, ex: "Im going to xxx tonight, you should come"
4)You seemed weak and insecure in sending all those TXT msgs to her questioning her about it.
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Heh, this guy's on top of his game.
Slaynish, you shouldn't ask for advice and then become critical when people give it to you. I think what most people were trying to say, was that you shouldn't have asked her to "go out" at all. That's about the equivalent to being in 1st grade and asking someone "Are we friends?" That's not how it's done. You do things with her, and if you hang out with groups you try to get alone time with her. You show interest in what she says and the things she does. You may be required to listen to what she says, that's normal. Then you two grow together and become really good friends(-
WARNING- stay out of the friend zone -
WARNING-, although that's another discussion entirely). Then one day you're alone, and you grow some balls and kiss her. Then maybe later you fool around and... well you get the picture. You don't ask a girl "Do you want to be girlfriend and boyfriend?" and expect either a relationship, or if there is a relationship, for it to last long at all.
My advice on your current situation:
Well you could always stick out the current situation with your error. That's what you will probably do, that's what anyone would probably do. However I'd say the best thing you could do is this nice little military tactic we call "regroup." Just step back, reevaluate, and go back in with a different attitude. Pretend you never did what you did, and work your way toward the kiss I discussed earlier. Oh ya, and the balls, you'll need some balls, because asking a girl out on an IM(with an away message mind you) is about the most cowardly pacifist thing you could've done.
Sorry to come down so hard, but it seemed like you needed it.
Good Luck