you and your girlfriend have been going out for 1year 5months (today). Your parents recently found out you and her are having sex (we are 17 years old). So to retaliate our parents basically ground us indefinetly from eachothers homes, because neither parent wants to take responsibility for allow us the chance of doing it, they say..."no your not comming here, im not baby sitting you". your girlfriends parents wont let her go anywhere unless she has condoms and is on bc. Even after she is on those her parents will still not let her out (i know her stepdad to well). so basically we get to see eachother about 3hours a day at school. and when schools done probably not at all.
so what would you guys do in this situation? would you try and build trust, be rebelious? break up? what...?
Build trust. Let them know you are responsible enough to hang out with her. You can always say that you are going to a friends house and meet her there and just chill at that friends house together.
problem is how, like they wont allow us to build trust. to me like the only way to build trust that we wont have sex is to let us be together and see what happens, i mean...i dont see how sitting at home without her, listening to them and doing all my chours (sp) will make me wanna be less sexual.
id love to gain there trust again but, i just dont know how
Just wondering, were you using protection when you were having sex? A lot of parents will not flip AS much if they hear you were protected. If you were protected, other then promising not to have sex, I don't think you can do anything to build up their trust.
If you're 17 now, it wont be long before you're 18. Get a job ASAP, save up money, and get her to do the same. When you can afford it, you two should get an apartment together or something. Once you and her are both 18 there's not shit they can do besides kick you out for seeing each other.
That would just make things worse, most likely they wouldn't even believe him and they would trust him even less for trying to lie about it. I honestly don't see what the problem is if they're using protection, they're both 17 so it's legal, parents are just stupid.
You have to be rebeliant. I'm telling you thats the only answer. Ultimatly all parents involved will let you be together rather than ruin your lives, it's the lesser of two evils. Also, any parents that think they can keep kids from having sex are fools. Tell them you'll do it at school
"Well son ...you can invite your little girlfriend over but it has to be some time when mom isn't home and well ...I'd rather prefer you weren't home either, alright?"
alright well i think this subject reachd it limits, read it to my girlfriend, and she kinda feels like a slut now...so now i feel bad that i made her feel like that.
it is very true though no one nowadays actually thinks about consequences just the actions everythings fun till the end. it sucks that we had to mess up to realize our wrongs but its the only way kids learn nowadays.
thanks for the comments you guys, the good and the bad.