Is this right or wrong or...

Here it be...

I think my gf/ex(in debate) is having doubts about leaving her ex, but now he dosen't want her back. She recently put a pause on us, and I am wondering if its to see if things will work out with her and her ex. Now, I really care for this girl a lot, and she seems to care a lot about me, but I guess im #2. People say its wrong for her to do that, if that is what she's doing. If so, it makes me feel like shit... but then I think about it from her point of view. She was with him for 2 1/2 years off and on rarely then got serious for the last year and a half. There's a lot of confort and she does care for him tho she can't stand to be with him. So, if that was me, it would be hard to just not want to make it work because you're with someone new, but then you don't want to lose the new person if it dosent work. So by her having me tag a long... is it wrong? I know its unfair to me, but should I just walk away for ever or just go on my path before her till she's ready?

if u care, then you should wait. but thats just me

she does care for him tho she can't stand to be with him.

It's not entirely wrong, but it is retarded. If she can't stand to be with him, what the fuck is the holdup? She's not fucking married, she doesn't have kids with him (as far as I have been made aware) and she's barely 25% of the way through her life. What in the name of crap is so important about clinging to the last thin threads of an unfulfilling relationship when you're still a fucking child?

Tell her to get her shit in gear (nicer than that, however) and drop his ass. She's got her whole life ahead of her, and probably a dozen more guys to date before she finds Mr. Right. She doesn't need to be wasting her energy and willpower on fighting for a relationship in her teens.

If she doesn't get her shit in gear, either sit back and wait like a good pup, or tell her to get fucked. Don't waste your time agonizing over a relationship at your age. There's plenty more to come.

Yea, I totally agree... and I can't see what her deal is. I think she's just out of her confort zone.

And I do care... a lot, like tonight was just amazing, tho we split up... its still great being around her

Give her a bit of time to sort out her feelings, a transition like that isn't easy. Try to be there for her as a friend, though. It's nice to know you can have someone to depend on through confusing times. One way or another, she'll come around.

I agree with Raziel. Donkey punch her if she takes too long.

but i dont want to be too much of a friend, with her being confused... i may end up just only being that to her

thats a valid point, but its what you have to do. Listen to the only girl in the forum.

Yea, listen to me. Being the only girl on the forum you should value my opinion.

That honestly cracked me up.

Anywho, Acer. There's always a possibility that she will go to him over you. You can hope that she'll realize that you're the better of the two, but that's not always the case. Girls are naive, and we have this stupid thing where we listen to our emotions and not our brains...even when it's blatantly obvious who we should go with.

You don't have to be "too much of a friend". Just be there if she needs ya, yanno?