I know, Slyvr - sometimes change isn't good. I, for one, don't like RmXp. That's just me.

Anyways, do what phsyco said - have two completely different charsets, one male and one female. Make it a basic event - Ask question; if female (change to female charset), if male (change to male charset).

I implemented that into my game and made them two different types of plots, based on your choice.