Well you just have to be patient and wait until someone catches your eye, then be a good conversationalist. I'm sure you know the drill... but remember that there is no set way or process that you have to go through to start a relationship. For me, it's always been different. Some girls are slow to show their feelings, some are quick. But generally you can tell if a girl likes you. And you don't really have to worry about rejection. It sucks but once you get over the fear then it's not really a big deal at all. Women are just as lonely and perhaps desperate for a good man as you are for a good woman. Be a good man, and you'll come across someone that you enjoy spending time with, and things will fall into place.