Dont know what to do about a sick girlfriend...

[kad13780]

I use the word sick for a lack of a better way to rationalize whats wrong with her.

So, we've been together for a year and a half or so. I was a junior and she was a sophomore when we first got together. She had one of those ridiculous depression/hate the world phases that I got her to see just how lame it was.

Anyways, the summer after my senior year she had a phase where she wanted to "take a break" because she had a fling for some douche bag, and i was like, ok whatever. So for a month or so she's doin her own thing until she realizes this guy is a douche then comes crawling back to me. (keep in mind though that her original reason for taking a break was because i was starting college and we thought it would help or something)

This is the kind of high school girl that gets mad when i talk to people she doesnt like. All of my female friends are off-limits to talk to. (i do anyways though and then deal with her being a flaming cunt) We fight like we're married and she's not even out of high school yet....and she wants to get married, but i said fuck that i'm only 18.

I know that she loves me...i almost thing she has some sort of obsessive compulsive disorder about me, which is why she's sick and why i dont know if or how to leave her. I'm in college anyways, all we ever do is fight, but whenever im at a point where i'm ready to break it off she can sense it or something and turns into this whole other, caring, nice, relaxed person....
shortly after, my nuts quickly retract and i cant break it off....

Also, whenever i come home, the sex is usually damn good, unless we're fighting. but most of the time it's good

it's not that i hate her....i just cant stand her



advice? comments? words of wisdom from the greats?

[Bon Clay]

Sounds like every other woman on the planet. You need to fucking take charge. Whenever she starts babbling about some bullshit try stuffing her mouth with your cock. Good luck finding any better advice than that.

[Medieval Bob]

End it man. It's over. You know it is. Anytime you're having thoughts about ending a relationship, it's over already anyhow.

I know it's hard to break off a long-term relationship when there's still some hope or good aspects of it. I've been there, but being a pussy isn't going to help either of you.

You gotta just, in the words of our very own Titus, grab your sack and do it.

[Grav]

Anytime you're having thoughts about ending a relationship, it's over already anyhow.
I disagree with this. It depends on the severity of the thoughts. People have a tendency to become temporarily insecure or question their life situation and want to break things off for no damn good reason.

Agree with the rest, though.

[kad13780]

i hear ya, i dont hesitate to tell her where she stands when she's a bitch, and she'll do the guilt trip thing, then i start to laugh, then it goes downhill from there. i guess the real thing is i dont actually know if i cant stand her to the point of "do i still wanna be with her or fuck this?"

[Grav]

I would think of it this way.

Are you getting enough good experience out of it to merit the annoyance?

Or maybe I should phrase it... is she worth the trouble?

[kad13780]

hmmm, i think it's too close either way. another thing is, i dont plan on being married young....at all....and at all costs i dont really wanna feel married cuz if im gonna deal with women's bullshit i kinda at least wanna be out on my own, semi-established, so at least i can feel like an adult to deal with the adult kind of relationships......so i guess i just dont know if i wanna keep dragging out something that i dont want now, or break it off with no good reason.

[Grav]

Do you want her or do you just want to fuck? Serious question.

[Bon Clay]

If the chick is fucking other dudes, and you take her back after that.

You = Sucker. The worst part about this is everyone around you already knows this. Clearly she is your typical confused teenage whore. Find yourself a woman with some class, one that wont give it up to any clown walking down the street because he smiled at her.

Now if sex is all you care about you have hit the jackpot, congratulations. If you want some girl who is going to worship you, there is one of two options. A. You find some fat ugly broad who can't get any other man. B. You import her from another country.

Welcome to the real world.

[Hades-Knight]

Kad you're in a great position man! You're in colege away from her...you can do your thing...she'll neve rknow...and when you go home you get good sex, how can you top that? God ut there and pimp dem college bitches and dont worry about the clinge.

[Halorin]

I use the word sick for a lack of a better way to rationalize whats wrong with her.

So, we've been together for a year and a half or so. I was a junior and she was a sophomore when we first got together. She had one of those ridiculous depression/hate the world phases that I got her to see just how lame it was.

Anyways, the summer after my senior year she had a phase where she wanted to "take a break" because she had a fling for some douche bag, and i was like, ok whatever. So for a month or so she's doin her own thing until she realizes this guy is a douche then comes crawling back to me. (keep in mind though that her original reason for taking a break was because i was starting college and we thought it would help or something)

This is the kind of high school girl that gets mad when i talk to people she doesnt like. All of my female friends are off-limits to talk to. (i do anyways though and then deal with her being a flaming cunt) We fight like we're married and she's not even out of high school yet....and she wants to get married, but i said fuck that i'm only 18.

I know that she loves me...i almost thing she has some sort of obsessive compulsive disorder about me, which is why she's sick and why i dont know if or how to leave her. I'm in college anyways, all we ever do is fight, but whenever im at a point where i'm ready to break it off she can sense it or something and turns into this whole other, caring, nice, relaxed person....
shortly after, my nuts quickly retract and i cant break it off....

Also, whenever i come home, the sex is usually damn good, unless we're fighting. but most of the time it's good

it's not that i hate her....i just cant stand her



advice? comments? words of wisdom from the greats?

It's a weird space for sure. I'm kind of in a situation like that with my girlfriend. She has her moments where she makes me happier than I've ever been and there are moments when I want to never talk to her again. I broke it off with her for about a week before we just got back together, and I learned a lot of out that week.

First, I'd say be honest with yourself. Try and break it down into whether you're better off with or without her. If it's with, sit down with her and tell her the things that happen that make you feel like you can't stand her. Don't say it in an accusing or argumentative way, but just tell her how her actions make you feel sometimes and give some ideas on what can be done to make things better. It sounds corny, but it really does help, and if things don't improve, or she doesn't want to cooperate, then you know she's not the one for you so you can move on.

And if you feel like you're better off without her, then just be honest with her. It'll hurt her a lot, yeah, but it's better to tell her what the situation is rather than string her along into believing something's there when it's not. The sooner the break the sooner you both would get over it.

Either way, it's time to sit down and talk to her because apparently things aren't going to get smoothed over on their own.

That's my advice. :)

[kad13780]

that's a pretty good one, definitely something to think about, thanks

[D3V]

End it man. It's over. You know it is. Anytime you're having thoughts about ending a relationship, it's over already anyhow.

I know it's hard to break off a long-term relationship when there's still some hope or good aspects of it. I've been there, but being a pussy isn't going to help either of you.

You gotta just, in the words of our very own Titus, grab your sack and do it.

Sounds like your situation.

[Grav]

Really. There's no way he could be drawing from past experiences to relate to similar situations.

[gruesomeBODY]

most of the guys have proven a point, but dont fell obligated to stay with this chick if shes making u unhappy. What matters here is what you want, not here and def not anyone else. You have to step up and take charge. if she acts like a bitch, then dont answer your cell phone. you call when you want to. Also, makes sure she understands that you arent happy so u two can work shit out. And still if its not working, then dump the bitch. Plain and simple

[Titusfied]

Every relationship has rough patches, it's how you act and react during those times that will determine whether or not the relationship will last. If she's worth it, you'll stick it out and get through it. If she isn't, you'll both find a reason for driving each other crazy, and it will end on it's own..

Problem with bitches is that they have that control over a guy. The control of sex. You can hate them one minute, then if they put on a sexy look, we can be seduced so easily, and basically forget what happened in the past, at least in the moment.. If you seriously love her, and it's not lust, you need to look past the sex. I think it would be good to take a break and do your own thing, both of you. If you find that not being together is fun and you don't miss it, there's your answer. If you are meant for each other, you will both be miserable and only worry about what the other is doing, then the next thing you know it, you are back together.

You learn a lot about a relationship when breaks are taken. They make you think about things and help you put things in perspective. Take a break, but not a break-up, if that makes sense..

[Hades-Knight]

Really. There's no way he could be drawing from past experiences to relate to similar situations.


LOL I remember this. "We broke up beause we're going to dif colleges" "We got back together because we love each other" "We decided we're better off by ourselves" GG.

But yeah I don't really have any good advice because I havent had a long term relationship.....if you want to pick chicks then Im your man but if you wanan get all touchy feely then Bob is the man(or woman in this case).

[D3V]

Yeah bob got owned, just don't do what he did.